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August 06, 2005



there are a lot of people in this world who always have a way of ruining your day just by a simple remark. I have a friend who seems to lack all the tact in the world but she does not notice it a bit and would say she always meant well...sigh...

sistah #1

jeez... i can only wonder what brought THAT about! hopefully you'll get over your "kasungitan" BEFORE you go home next week. especially since heat and humidity always brings out the best in us :(


Hi Duke - I'm all for honesty -- but only if one's opinion or advice is solicited. Otherwise I often think it's best to just zip it. :)

HI Sistah - Right when I was almost done with my post, I went to the doctor and found out the reason why I've been feeling blah (and having constant killer headaches to boot) is because my sinuses are still badly inflamed from the bout with bronchitis I had two months ago! So now I'm on another round of yet even stronger antibiotics. Well, at least I know why I haven't been feeling so great. So maybe in a few days I'll be perky again. :)


I was in a party na few years ago and met this Filipina. Prior to chatting with her, I was informed that she's only been in the U.S. for 8 months. So, I tried chatting with her in tagalog. I almost gagged when she said that she'd already forgotten how to speak the language and now would rather converse in english. All the while, she was saying this in broken english with matching Philippine regional accent. So I look at her in complete awe and wonder. I had to excused myself because I couldn't contain the laughter in my head.

Sayang, she's pretty pa naman. What a turn off.


All I know is...we look forward to seeing you. Excited you'll come to M's fundraiser! Great!!! Torn looks forward to seeing you too.
I agree with there being nothing funny about hate. I get the stupid insensitive jokes too (racist, sexist...)-- sometimes from my family! I always tell them off. In fact, my dad passed his cell phone on to me but all the stupid jokes were still in it. He said if they didn't offend me, to keep them til he got back (from the US). Told him they did and deleted them all. As Elvis Costello sang, "What's so funny 'bout peace, love and understanding..."


Hi John - I also knew this gal from Manila, who moved to CA. I bumped into her serendipitiously at a party somewhere in Hollywood, and I automatically started speaking to her in Tagalog. But she kept replying in English -- which was painful to hear because it sounded so forced and unnatural (may parang Texan twang pa yata eh!). I was wondering why she refused to speak in Tagalog, and realized maybe she was trying to reinvent herself over here.

Hi Chiqs! I can't wait to see all of you (and yes, Torn most definitely!). I've decided in my head that M's going to beat this, and we're all going to be there to celebrate. Let me know if you want me to bring anything for you, OK?


Gi, my sister just complained about the same tactlessness from folks from back home. She works as a server at a fine dining establishment in Vegas - something that she's really good at - and it's an honest living. Plus, anyone who works there knows how difficult it is to land a job in the better establishments.

She recently served a table of girls from our alma mater, and upon knowing that she studied in the same school, their first remark was, (and imagine the accent, ok?) "Ha? What happened to you? How come you're just working here?" Knowing my sister, she responded with a fake story to the put-down, and left the table with laughter in her head. After all, they only ordered appetizers, whereas she can afford to order the whole gamut of items on the menu, including drinks. She was more pissed that all they left her a $2 tip!

If it's any consolation, the last time I was in Manila, no one said a thing about my weight gain.


those people trying hard to show-off their accent actually reminds me of the play "New Yorker in Tondo"... :-)


I've always thought that the best riposte is a straight-to-the-point "Ikaw talaga. Pangit pa rin ang ugali." But I've never been able to pull it off!


I had a good laugh when you wrote about Filipinas trying hard (talagang TH) to speak with an English twang.
A few months ago, a former student applied for a job in a call center in Makati. Wow, was she shocked when the lady security guard talked to her with a strange "American accent". She said she appreciated the fact that the lady tried to talk to her in English (the call center had a sign encouraging everyone to speak in English) but, bakit may accent pa?


Nice putdowns there. Might use them one of these days when someone comments about my gut (and I don't even drink plenty of beer)!

Have a safe trip, and a reminder that there is another Bizu cake shop in Greenhills, aside from their Makati location.


Hi Yey - Eeeks. OK my question is: were they from the high school or college? Hehe :)

Hello Harrrumph - Just proves to show how timeless that play is, huh? :)

Hi John - May I borrow that comeback? Please? It's straight to the point and you can say it with a smile.

Hello Bugsybee - That's so funny! I guess the security guard paid close attention to the pronunciation training.

Hi Paul - You know I'm heading straight for Bizu when I get home. Only four more days -- wheeee!


Gi, I don't think she asked, but of course, I'd rather think the way you're thinking. Too bad you're missing Saturday - we're supposed to do the whole singing and dancing thing. But then again, I'm currently the youngest in the group. One thing I've noticed, though, is that all the ladies still have their original accents. ;-)

Have fun in Manila! If plans materialize, I'll be going in September after FPAC; or October after the A3M Fundraiser. I'll email you on any interesting comments made to me, and hopefully I can respond in the appropriate manner in which we were trained. Ha!


#3 reminded me of those mororns who just recently launched a website only for "BEAUTIFUL" people. it was all over the news last week. puhleazze.

like Judge Judy said, Beauty fades :)


Hahaha...i share all your pet peeves!

I can't understand why some Filipinas thought speaking with an American twang will make them more American-ize. I even encourage my kids to speak Tagalog at home, so they won't lose the language. It's enough that I talk in English to my husband, in-laws and neighbors all the time, but when i'm talking to a fellow Filipino, Tagalog tayo dapat! I find it funny when I talked to a lot of Filipinas I met here and they almost always start their sentence with "Actually..." and ends it with "you know...". Please, give me a break!! Ayan, ang taray ko na rin! :)


I say fuck 'em. so there.


ok ang post mo! you hit the nail on the head re some behavioral peeves like greeting someone with "Ang taba mo" and people who try so much to be what they are not. Great Rant piece.


Hi Yey, Dexie, Cheesecake, Stacy, and Anicee - I'm going to have to go with Stacy here -- even if I'm not so grouchy anymore. :)


hi gigi,

i'm more used to talking in english to my friends because i'm used to the language. =P i've heard stories from friends in college where someone went to the states for some time, less than a year, came back completely forgetting the tagalog language. that never fails to get me laughing.

and yeah, that thing where people greet you with 'oy, ang taba mo na'. i'd like to borrow a couple of your replies if i may. ehehehe.


hah! first the partygirl in HK... grrrrrr makes my blood boil! anyway yes, it's a reflection of a shallow existence.

second... the comment on those who make ignorant hate-filled jokes and accuse u of having no sense of humor... ahh yes, i have absolutely no tolerance for that either.

err, im not really a grumpy individual. haha just had to react to ur comments


I know what you mean about "Flab Blab". I visited Manila last month and my cousin said "you're fat". Direct to the point. I'm used to this and don't apologize for it so I just said, "yup". Also, she was slim and shapely, as she's alwasy been, so I couldn't say something nasty back to her.

PS. My aunt said you had a "website" but knowing you, I knew it was a blog so I checked it out. Great.


hi, gigi! wow, you'll be here in Manila pala. have a safe trip, ha.

it pains to know that there are people with what is called 'superiority complex'. i pity them though because i sense that it is a defense mechanism to hide what is really abominable about them.


Hi Sarah - It's not speaking in English that weirds me out, it's doing so with a fake accent. I mean, it's one thing to put on an English one when you live in England -- at least you're only trying to be understood. But to do so -- badly, I might add -- while you're in the US or the Philippines? There really is no point, except an attempt to impress or intimidate, I think.

PS: Only ONE person told me "tumaba ka" -- my paternal aunt. I almost said, "Ay ikaw rin" --which was indeed the truth. But I decided I was younger, cuter, and better dressed and could well afford to be magnanimous. So I bit my tongue.

Hello Asphaire - thanks for stopping by! My friend told me the HK (rhymes with witch) is a popular party girl who dates celebrities like Jackie Chan (even if he's married -- whatever). I think she's engaged to some rich or famous dude. I bet she didn't send him a mirror, regardless of how he may look. :)

Hi gdtobme - First, love the name! Second, who's your aunt -- email me! Dying of curiousity here.

Hello Bing - I suspect you're right. Most of the truly confident people I've met never found the need to prove anything to anyone.


gigi, oo nga kainis yong mga kababayan na ganyan. pero tawang-tawa ako dito sa comment ni harrrumph "New Yorker in Tondo!" tsaka ni John: "Ikaw talaga. Pangit pa rin ang ugali." grabeh!!! bwahaha magaya nga yan sa sunod na meet ako ng nakakainis na pinoy.


Hi Isay - Ok talaga ang line ni John. I don't like being called "taba" -- but if it means I get to use his comeback, bring it on!

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